Tuesday, July 7, 2015

California Diaries

First off, it's kind of sad how long it has been since being on this blog. To be honest, something inside of me a long time ago just didn't want to do it anymore. I think it got too much. Too overdone. Too much of "more of this on my blog, link in profile" going on. Like blogging became a default for young married girls or mommies. I didn't want to be a default. I don't really care for doing what everyone else is doing! haha i'm such a butt like that. When things get on the band-wagon it like loses it's cool for me. BUT also with that, during pregnancy and having a baby I didn't even have time or the energy even if I wanted to! And I have wanted to. I miss my friends from blogging. I miss the sweet girls who would comment back and forth on my posts. I miss the way I was able to connect with, dare I say, kindred souls from around the world?! hahaha really though! I don't know why but I don't really have that kind of community on instagram. I did, but only for the first couple of months with Kai being born. Then it faded, maybe I just have become irrelevant or I don't post enough pictures of my son (jk, there were plenty) or maybe, and probably, i just am not ever really open and real as i was on here. It's so weird how many captions i'll write on a picture for insta but i'll delete them because 1: no one will get my sarcasm! i might offend somebody. 2: ahh man another religious quote??! no one will read this or 3: i don't think my followers asked for a novel on how my day as mother went. it's like i'm so concerned with others that i have lost my voice. and it makes me incredibly sad. because as you other momma's know, you lose parts of yourself when you do have a child. you lose your pre-preggy body, your time, some of your hobbies, most of your energy, and sometimes within all that you lose yourself! it's really is a battle everyday!

that's why i think it's so important to never lose your voice. through journaling, blogging, social media-ing (yeah that's a word) or whatever it is that you do to make you feel like yourself, keep doing it. always find time for it. because when you are taking care of yourself too, you really are being the best mother and wife for your loved ones. 

so yeah. 
about that california post..... 

Laguna Beach is seriously our haven. We went there last year when I was pregnant and stayed with family. While we were there I laid in the sand almost everyday and watched vaughan in the ocean while little baby kai kicked in my belly. Even though I was born and raised in Utah, I've always had a sense of belonging to the beach. I think it's more than fate that I ended up marrying an island boy who feels the same way. Our dreams are to be able to live in New Zealand one day soon, so that our kids can have the same experiences vaughan had living there. And also, with my kids being half polynesian, i think it's extremely important that they have a strong feel for their culture. Orem is a lot of things that I love but I don't know if it has everything that I want for them. If only we could have a million dollars to have two homes and endless sky miles so we could just fly back and forth! Kai is already such a beach baby. We would put him down in the sand and he would crawl like 20-30 feet away from us and just play by himself hahaha he looked like a little sand turtle. Was a little afraid of the ocean but would put his feet in from time to time. 

Anyway, not that we're locals or anything BUT from the week we were there our favorite places to eat in Laguna are Active Culture (the yummy acai bowl and wellness bowl), La Sirena (Mexican food), BJ's Pizza, Greeters (for Breakfast), Nicks and Johnny Rockets! We just stay on the main beach most days but we went up to Thalia and loved it there for bigger waves. Also, the Pacific Edge Hotel was money! We ended having to stay there for a couple days and I wish we would have done it sooner! Steps from the beach, right on the main road of Laguna with a Ralphs Grocery Store right across the street. There is also a Taco Bell next door in case that is a game changer for you. 

We miss it already. Most trips we can't wait to get home towards the end but with this it felt like we were leaving a little part of us there. 

xx ryleeblake 

Sunday, May 10, 2015

GET PUMPED OUTTA YOUR MIND!! (work out music & fitness update)

it's been a while since i've had any updates on how my Kayla Itsines (i totally don't know how to pronounce her last name still) program is working out! it wasn't until this last month that i really started putting in more time and doing the workouts consistently. i decided to start with the pre-week routines to help my transition into the program be less intimidating and i'm so glad i did! from these past 5 weeks of doing the pre workouts i've seen an incredible difference. my tummy is more flat, my thighs have thinned out, my booty is getting its lift back and overall i just am more fit and toned. my body is getting stronger and i feel so much more confident.

now that i'm a mama, i find that i rarely have energy to do much of what i love. after a long day, working out doesn't really seem like my idea of "getting a break"and this is what has caused inconsistencies in the past. so i found that sticking to a routine (working out the same time everyday) and building a support group is what has made the biggest difference this time round! it honestly has helped me to find that motivation and discipline that i've needed to get through my mental and physical roadblocks. so that's why i've decided to try and be more vocal about my journey.

my best friend shelby posted on instagram that she is going to start the BBG (kayla's bikini body guide) program this monday, may 11th and i'm going to join her! this will be my first time moving forward without the pre-week workouts so i'm a little intimidated but it's definitely time to take it to the next level.

if you've been wondering about the kayla itsines program or have the guides but haven't started the program yet, come join me! i'll be here posting progress pics, music i workout to, gears that i love and some food/recipes that i've been trying out. email me or find me on instagram @ryleeblake and let me know if you're doing the program too.

to get started, here's a playlist of songs vaughan and i have been listening to lately.
let me know if you have any that you love and that help you get through a tough workout!

oh and here is the details on Kayla:
guides- http://www.kaylaitsines.com/collections/guides ( i have weeks 1-12)
recipes/nutrition guide- http://www.kaylaitsines.com/products/help-recipe-guide


Friday, March 20, 2015

gettin them z's

i've been asked several times how we were able to get kai to sleep through the night at a young age so i thought i'd quickly share some tips! first of all, every baby is different (oh, you haven't heard that one yet?) so don't worry if what works for some other momma doesn't work for you! the important thing is to watch your babe and see what they best respond to. i say this because the first month of kai's life i was so over-worried about the babywise schedule i read so much about during pregnancy! it taught me some great basics BUT the content essentially advised me to wake up my baby for scheduled feedings. waking up my newborn didn't feel right to me at first but i thought in the end i would be doing what was best. so, we stayed with it and at 2 months kai would still wake up every 2 hours for a feeding during the night and he only napped for like 30 minutes during the day. by the time Thanksgiving came, we went up to Idaho to visit family and stayed in a hotel. after an entire night of no sleep and a whole day of all of us being exhausted and overtired we had finally hit our breaking point. 

in the middle of the night i just couldn't get to sleep thinking of how we were to change kai's schedule! i didn't really know where to begin looking for answers. i said a quick prayer and asked for some help. as i was scrolling through some of my friend's blogs i had found a post on this book, "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" so i downloaded it onto my phone and started reading.

it was a game changer. i read from 3am until 8 that morning highlighting almost every sentence. this book explained to vaughan and i everything that we felt like we were missing. we started implementing the changes that very day and by the end of Thanksgiving break kai went from 2 hour to an 8 hour sleeping stretch at night. #YAAAS

so what changed? 

i learned about "wake-time" and to never wake a sleeping baby and that every newborn baby has their own personal time of being awake until they get sleepy. babies will show you signs (getting quiet, staring off etc.) of when it's time for them to go to sleep. if they are yawning and rubbing their eyes, it's too late. they are already over-tired. so once we learned about these cues and watched kai do them, we would stop whatever we were doing and immediately start his "nap/sleep" routine. after a couple of days of watching him, we found that kai had an hour of wake time until he would start showing these signs. so from that we started developing his schedule. 

for example: 
say he woke up at 8:00 a.m. we would then get him out of his crib, feed him, change his diaper, play with him and then as soon as 8:50 a.m. came along we'd swaddle him, sit in the rocker, put a silky blanket by his face and feed him an ounce or so. as soon as his eyes got droopy we put him in his crib and let him fall asleep on his own. he'd then wake up after about 1.5-2 hour nap. once he woke up from his nap, it was the same process over again. 

after a week of doing this we noticed a couple things. 1) kai was SO MUCH happier! you could just tell that he was comfortable and peaceful and getting the rest that he needed. 2) he started sleeping longer stretches at night. like from 10:00 p.m. to 5 a.m. at 2.5 months old! it was incredible. slowly life was starting to make more sense. 

so once we saw that he was able to do a 7-8hr sleep stretch without eating, vaughan and i decided it was time to teach kai to sleep through the whole night. 

this is what kai's schedule would look like before:
10:00 p.m. put down for bed (bath, jammies) 
3:00 a.m. wake up on his own (feed put down to bed)
7:00 a.m. wake up on his own  (feed put down to bed)
9:00 a.m. up for the day (bath, day clothes)

so our plan was to eliminate the 3:00 a.m. feeding. either vaughan or i would sleep next to the crib for a night and when kai woke for his 3:00 feeding, instead of taking him out and giving him a bottle, we had him stay in the crib and gave him a pacifier instead. some nights he would take it right away and fall asleep and other nights he would struggle a bit more and cry for 10-15 minutes. it was our goal to teach him that it's just not time to eat until the 7:00 feeding that morning. so after a couple of nights of doing this (it was exhausting) he finally skipped the 3:00 a.m. feeding! hommie slept a full 9 hours. and when he woke up? the happiest i've ever seen him. all smiles and giggles! i knew then that the whole "sleep training" had been worth it. 

now that kai is approaching 6 months old we've done things a little differently. his wake time is about 2 hours and we are transitioning to depend more on a time schedule rather than the wake time. our schedule now looks a little like this:

8:30a wakes up
10:30 down for nap 

11:30 wakes up
1:30 down for nap

2:30 wakes up
4:30 down for nap

*optional nap around 5-6  if he's acting extremely tired. i usually try to avoid this nap if we can though so that we can get him down earlier! 

7:30-8:00p  bath, jammies, swaddle, fuzzy blanket and feed him until he falls asleep! 

like i said before, every baby is different and what worked for kai may not work for your little one! but i am so happy that i was open to trying new things. even though it took some trial and error it was so worth the time and energy we put in. so if you guys have any questions just let me know! 


Tuesday, February 10, 2015

obsessed // 4 months

i say this about every stage in my baby teddy's life but I LOVE THIS STAGE!! 3-4 months is when his personality really started to come through. he talks all the time, laughs and even yells at us hahaha oh and his squealing! but generally he is just a calm, happy, curious and loving baby. all the complications from him being small and early at birth have subsided. he is now so chunky and healthy and lovey and snuggly and oh. i am so obsessed. 

likes: eating sophia (originally the sophie giraffe doll w/ name change). bath time. splashing us at bath time. sitting up with help. rolling from his tummy to his back. new jumper toy. stroller rides. fuzzy blankets. naps with mommy. playing with daddy. his hands. mimicking the sounds mommy and daddy make. talking. laughing. reaching out for something. holding his baba. 

not a fan of: pacifiers. carseat. too much tummy time. daddy's beard. the sun in his eyes. pooping. 

we took him to our doctor for his 4 month check up yesterday and saw his stats! he is 16.7 pounds (71%) 17.5 inches in head circumference (99%) and 26 inches (87%) in height. this boy is growing crazy fast. now wearing 3-6 month clothing but honestly the 6 mo. clothing is fitting him a lot better. which makes me kind of sad that my baby is getting so big so fast BUT he is so perfect the way he is, i wouldn't change anything. i feel like the luckiest momma in the world to be his. 

here's a little video of him squealing and laughing at vaughan. it's password protected so type in "bath time" to view!