Friday, March 20, 2015

gettin them z's

i've been asked several times how we were able to get kai to sleep through the night at a young age so i thought i'd quickly share some tips! first of all, every baby is different (oh, you haven't heard that one yet?) so don't worry if what works for some other momma doesn't work for you! the important thing is to watch your babe and see what they best respond to. i say this because the first month of kai's life i was so over-worried about the babywise schedule i read so much about during pregnancy! it taught me some great basics BUT the content essentially advised me to wake up my baby for scheduled feedings. waking up my newborn didn't feel right to me at first but i thought in the end i would be doing what was best. so, we stayed with it and at 2 months kai would still wake up every 2 hours for a feeding during the night and he only napped for like 30 minutes during the day. by the time Thanksgiving came, we went up to Idaho to visit family and stayed in a hotel. after an entire night of no sleep and a whole day of all of us being exhausted and overtired we had finally hit our breaking point. 

in the middle of the night i just couldn't get to sleep thinking of how we were to change kai's schedule! i didn't really know where to begin looking for answers. i said a quick prayer and asked for some help. as i was scrolling through some of my friend's blogs i had found a post on this book, "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" so i downloaded it onto my phone and started reading.

it was a game changer. i read from 3am until 8 that morning highlighting almost every sentence. this book explained to vaughan and i everything that we felt like we were missing. we started implementing the changes that very day and by the end of Thanksgiving break kai went from 2 hour to an 8 hour sleeping stretch at night. #YAAAS

so what changed? 

i learned about "wake-time" and to never wake a sleeping baby and that every newborn baby has their own personal time of being awake until they get sleepy. babies will show you signs (getting quiet, staring off etc.) of when it's time for them to go to sleep. if they are yawning and rubbing their eyes, it's too late. they are already over-tired. so once we learned about these cues and watched kai do them, we would stop whatever we were doing and immediately start his "nap/sleep" routine. after a couple of days of watching him, we found that kai had an hour of wake time until he would start showing these signs. so from that we started developing his schedule. 

for example: 
say he woke up at 8:00 a.m. we would then get him out of his crib, feed him, change his diaper, play with him and then as soon as 8:50 a.m. came along we'd swaddle him, sit in the rocker, put a silky blanket by his face and feed him an ounce or so. as soon as his eyes got droopy we put him in his crib and let him fall asleep on his own. he'd then wake up after about 1.5-2 hour nap. once he woke up from his nap, it was the same process over again. 

after a week of doing this we noticed a couple things. 1) kai was SO MUCH happier! you could just tell that he was comfortable and peaceful and getting the rest that he needed. 2) he started sleeping longer stretches at night. like from 10:00 p.m. to 5 a.m. at 2.5 months old! it was incredible. slowly life was starting to make more sense. 

so once we saw that he was able to do a 7-8hr sleep stretch without eating, vaughan and i decided it was time to teach kai to sleep through the whole night. 

this is what kai's schedule would look like before:
10:00 p.m. put down for bed (bath, jammies) 
3:00 a.m. wake up on his own (feed put down to bed)
7:00 a.m. wake up on his own  (feed put down to bed)
9:00 a.m. up for the day (bath, day clothes)

so our plan was to eliminate the 3:00 a.m. feeding. either vaughan or i would sleep next to the crib for a night and when kai woke for his 3:00 feeding, instead of taking him out and giving him a bottle, we had him stay in the crib and gave him a pacifier instead. some nights he would take it right away and fall asleep and other nights he would struggle a bit more and cry for 10-15 minutes. it was our goal to teach him that it's just not time to eat until the 7:00 feeding that morning. so after a couple of nights of doing this (it was exhausting) he finally skipped the 3:00 a.m. feeding! hommie slept a full 9 hours. and when he woke up? the happiest i've ever seen him. all smiles and giggles! i knew then that the whole "sleep training" had been worth it. 

now that kai is approaching 6 months old we've done things a little differently. his wake time is about 2 hours and we are transitioning to depend more on a time schedule rather than the wake time. our schedule now looks a little like this:

8:30a wakes up
10:30 down for nap 

11:30 wakes up
1:30 down for nap

2:30 wakes up
4:30 down for nap

*optional nap around 5-6  if he's acting extremely tired. i usually try to avoid this nap if we can though so that we can get him down earlier! 

7:30-8:00p  bath, jammies, swaddle, fuzzy blanket and feed him until he falls asleep! 

like i said before, every baby is different and what worked for kai may not work for your little one! but i am so happy that i was open to trying new things. even though it took some trial and error it was so worth the time and energy we put in. so if you guys have any questions just let me know! 


Tuesday, February 10, 2015

obsessed // 4 months

i say this about every stage in my baby teddy's life but I LOVE THIS STAGE!! 3-4 months is when his personality really started to come through. he talks all the time, laughs and even yells at us hahaha oh and his squealing! but generally he is just a calm, happy, curious and loving baby. all the complications from him being small and early at birth have subsided. he is now so chunky and healthy and lovey and snuggly and oh. i am so obsessed. 

likes: eating sophia (originally the sophie giraffe doll w/ name change). bath time. splashing us at bath time. sitting up with help. rolling from his tummy to his back. new jumper toy. stroller rides. fuzzy blankets. naps with mommy. playing with daddy. his hands. mimicking the sounds mommy and daddy make. talking. laughing. reaching out for something. holding his baba. 

not a fan of: pacifiers. carseat. too much tummy time. daddy's beard. the sun in his eyes. pooping. 

we took him to our doctor for his 4 month check up yesterday and saw his stats! he is 16.7 pounds (71%) 17.5 inches in head circumference (99%) and 26 inches (87%) in height. this boy is growing crazy fast. now wearing 3-6 month clothing but honestly the 6 mo. clothing is fitting him a lot better. which makes me kind of sad that my baby is getting so big so fast BUT he is so perfect the way he is, i wouldn't change anything. i feel like the luckiest momma in the world to be his. 

here's a little video of him squealing and laughing at vaughan. it's password protected so type in "bath time" to view! 

Monday, January 12, 2015

Kai's Birth Video -- the best surprise video ever.

okay. the part where i'm pushing is obviously the most flattering shot of me ever so don't like be blown away by my beauty mkay? haha okay JUST KIDDING i am actually embarrassed by it but that is totally part of the process of labor AND i'm actually proud of my pushing since it took three rounds ( i actually don't really think it mattered since kai was determined to get out of there but for my sake we will say it's from me going ham ) to get that little guy home! 


when i asked my cousin and bff courtney to come take pictures at the hospital, i had no idea she was secretly doing video too! so a day after giving birth to kai she sent me a little snippet and i was totally balling. it was so sacred to be able to re-live that experience. after seeing that little mini version, my family sent in what they got from their iphones. she then added in all of those different perspectives and made it into one big video. when she sent it to me a couple days ago, you already know both me and vaughan were crying again. i watch it over and over. 

hands down, the best experience of my life. 
thank you so much babe! 

check her out here!

Sunday, January 11, 2015

the usual

(that awkward bump  is a weird angle of rib cage. NOT boob.)

anyway. i have been trying to implement tummy time more lately and kai just thinks it's the most worthless thing. he'd rather be sitting up watching basketball with daddy. so when we do tummy time i try to make it fun and put him on my belly. he smiles enough just for a picture but then goes back to his frustrating talks and grunts haha i don't know if he'll ever care enough to roll over! 

sometimes during the day while baby is sleeping we try to get a nap and snuggles in. the MOMENT we lay down kai always wakes up and starts to cry. so we go in his room get him out of his crib and bring him back to bed with us. most of the time he doesn't have it and would rather be held or us talking to him but this time he went straight back asleep once we got him snuggly with us. and of course, instead of us sleeping we just stare at him and took pictures. 

i don't think any mum can have enough sleeping pictures of her baby. especially when your baby sleeps 13+ hours in one night?!?!?! haha what? i didn't even think that was possible. but he did it. we put him down for bed at 9 and my little hommie didn't wake up until 10:30 the next morning. vaughan and i woke up thinking that the other had taken the early morning shift so the minute we figured out that neither us of did we ran right into his room to make sure he was breathing. he was. and he was slowly waking up just staring at us with the biggest smiles. then we had the biggest smiles since that was the longest any of us had slept in about 4 months. 

i'm 3 weeks in with the kayla itsines  workout program and it is totally kicking my butt. for just this short amount of time i already have seen such progress with my baby weight. if you're looking for a fitness guide i 10000000% recommend her. i'll talk more about this and some other things i've been doing that have helped me lose weight, tone up and feel so much more incredible and energetic in another post soon! because it seriously is such a game changer. check her out and do the program with me! k? k. 

i also got a little fancy and now have a twitter. it all started out with a massive christmas eve giveaway and if you have twitter it counts for extra entries. so i was planning on getting a fake twitter and posting so it looked like i actually used it but then the giveaway ended and i actually still liked it. like where has this been all my life? so if you have one follow me at ryleeblake_! and if you have one and you're funny let me know what your handle (handle? i sound so twitterprofessional or something) is. 

every other week we go to my uncle jon and get our back's adjusted (kai, too! we've been taking him in since he was a newborn). his chiropracting offices are up in South Jordan so whenever we go up we always take advantage of the yummy resturants up there! we usually always make a run for the chicken nuggets at Whole Foods but this time we had lunch at Pizzeria Limone and it was sooo yummy! We got the margerita and pepperoni pizza with a chicken ceasar and krotan? (i forgot the name but it's just like breadsticks in pizza form). luhhhbed all of it. OH! and the coco bean slim at the orange peel, too. of course. 

other than that our week was pretty chill. kai is just talking all day everyday. starting to suck on his animal friends. making mommy fall in love with him. the usual. 

oh, and a video!